Holistic Science Personal Experience–Avoiding Clashes at Work

Oct 21, 2013

What is a clash?

Clash is defined as a conflict between opposing or irreconcilable ideas. How do you know if you are involved in a clash or conflict? Clash results in a loss of the inner peace and happiness. During a clash, one’s ego gets hurt or is challenged.

 What are the causes of clashes?

Clashes occur because we follow our own laws. If we follow the laws laid down by others, the clashes can be minimized. For example, we follow traffic lights to avoid car accidents. Because we abide by traffic regulations, we are spared from accidents. If we can apply the same rule to our daily interactions, we will run into fewer difficulties.

Clashes arise because of our own limited interpretations of the laws of life (nature). We have zero tolerance for perceived mistakes of others. We don’t understand others’ viewpoints and steadfastly hold on to our viewpoint.

Causes of Clash: Difference in View Points / Opinions

Each person interprets this image in his/her own unique way. For some it is the image of an old man and for others it is the face of a woman.  Everyone’s point of view is correct. But our ego has difficulty accepting the view point of others.

Birds actually believe that their reflection in a mirror is another bird and clash with the mirror. Like birds, we are also plagued with ignorance. This ignorance is the root cause of all clashes. We can peacefully resolve all of our conflicts with a simple understanding that conflict is nothing but an effect of a prior cause.

Effects of clashes

Physical clash causes scars, medication, and short-term pain. On the other hand, inner clash (the clash in our minds) inflicts wounds on our minds. All the inner instruments (mind, body and speech) are negatively impacted by an inner clash. The mental pain and anguish from inner clash lasts lot longer than a physical clash. In essence, clashes divert us from the state of permanent bliss, which is our essential nature.

Resolving clashes

Take this spring for example. In its normal state it is relaxed and uncompressed.  If we put some pressure on it, it compresses. As soon as the pressure is released it recoils and released the pent up energy. 

To avoid conflict does not mean to tolerate. When you tolerate, you are compressing the spring within. The spring will not stay compressed for too long and when it recoils it will cause a lot of damage. Rather than tolerating, we should learn how to resolve a conflict.

If we have an unpleasant encounter with someone, we should realize that this is the fruit of our past karmas. We can overcome the negative feelings toward this person by having an awareness that this person is innocent because he is just an instrument to settle our past karmic account.

With this understanding we should always try and avoid conflicts. Avoiding conflicts is crucial to gaining permanent bliss.

Example of resolving a clash using holistic science

After seven weeks off on maternity leave, I (Puja) returned to work. To my dismay, my work schedule had no consistency and included weekend shifts.  On the other hand, my co-worker who also returned from her pregnancy 3 months ago, had a very accommodating schedule. She did not have to work evenings or weekends.

I had a firm belief that this situation arose because of my Karmic account. I saw my boss as mere an instrument for settling this account. I resolved internally that I will not hold any grudge against my manager or co-worker. I pointed out the disparity to my boss and waited patiently for his decision.

In due course, my boss changed my schedule to be on par with my co-worker.

Ruchir and Puja Patel, Chicago