Answers to kids' Questions - Part 1

Nov 02, 2014
Dr. Shaileshanandji answers kids' questions about Holistic Science.

Meaning of Jai Satchitanand
The word Satchitanand is comprised of 3 small words, Sat, Chit, Anand.

“Sat” stands for eternal. If we see in our world, inside us and outside us, everything is changing. That means it begins and it ends but according to the enlightened ones, our own pure self and that of everybody’s own pure self is eternal or perpetual. Similarly there are five more elements that are eternal, so whatever is eternal is said to be “Sat”. i.e. perpetual (permanent).

“Chit” is to know and to see, if you observe a chair or a camera, can it know itself or see by itself? No.

It is only that atman or pure self or chetan which has the property of knowing and seeing. The other five elements do not have the knowing and seeing property.

“Anand” or bliss is the inherent property of pure conscious or Atman.

In summary,
“Sat” means eternal, “Chit” means to know and see and “Anand” is bliss. So everyone’s’ real self is permanent, with knowing and seeing power and has the inherent property of bliss.

When you say Jai Satchitanand to others, we are greeting their real self. We are just seeing and greeting the real-self of that particular living being.

What is the purpose of seeing and greeting the real-self?
Because when I see your real-self and when I say to you Jai Satchitanand, automatically I am reminded of my own real-self and my real or pure self blossoms. I get happiness of pure self. So it’s in my self interest that I am saying Jai Satchitanand to you or to everybody.

To whom do we say to and why do we say Jai Satchitanand?
When I say Jai Satchitanand to you or to any person whom I am meeting, it greets not only his or her real-self but it also reminds me of my own real-self. The world is my own echo and whatever I do, it affects the other people afterwards but first it affects me.

So keep this cardinal principle in your heart that our actions of mind, body and speech which are going to help or affect others positively or negatively affect us first.

We say Jai Satchitanand in our heart. For example your teacher may not know the meaning of Jai Satchitanand, or your other school friends may not know the meaning of Jai Satchitanand, so we may not say verbally or expressed outwardly but we can say within our heart.

What is the method of saying Jai Satchitanand to our parents or others?
We join both hands and bow our head and say Jai Satchitanand. To our friends or to equal age we say Jai Satchitanand within our heart.

When we say good morning, good evening, goodbye to everybody or whenever we meet or depart our mind works on a superficial level or at the surface level or it is mechanical or without any deep feeling, but Jai Satchitanand works at the deeper heart level feeling and it is our hearty connection to the other person especially our family members, parents, Mahatmas and satsang group friends.

Question: “What should be in our heart when we say Jai Satchitanand? 
When I say Jai Satchitanand, in fact I am bowing to the Real side of the other person to whom I am saying Jai Satchitanand. Every living being has two parts, one is the personality part, our mind, body and speech part and the other is the real-self part which is the eternal light and it is the source of infinite knowing part , infinite perception or vision part and the infinite bliss. With humbleness within our heart we are bowing to the real-self of the other living being and in fact it relates to my own real-self also. Therefore, the people to whom we are saying and we ourselves will be happy by saying Jai Satchitanand, and that happiness is at the level of heart.

When you say Jai Satchitanand to your Mummy or Daddy we are seeing our real self in
them. In other words, it is Dada Bhagwan in them. Also, when you are saying Jai Satchitanand, and if you see your face in the mirror, your face will be smiling.

We can keep in our heart that let everyone get to know of truth or real self. Let
everyone have happiness and bliss of it. Dadaji please bless all for common welfare of mankind as a whole.

What are our duties to our family?
We feel all the time that our parents or our family have duty towards us since they provide everything to us and help us all the time. Are they not fulfilling their duties? Are they not taking care of you? They give you everything, e.g. food, clothing, education, and other things which you like. Is it not correct? So as they are fulfilling their duties, you are getting all amenities and have all the circumstances, opportunities and privileges to grow. Therefore, should you not have your share of duties also?

Privileges do not come without duties. As we perform our duties our privileges which become better and better are given to us naturally through our parents.

What are our duties to our parents and our family members?

First and foremost I will quote Holistic Scientist A. M. Patel. He used to say, “In our worldly living or with the family members we are living with, the respect and care for mother is the first priority”, he further said that one should take care of the parents, first mother then father and then teacher. One who serves and respects all these three in our life, will be very happy in the worldly living”.

Let me quote the example of Lord Mahavir, some of you may have heard the story, that when Mahavir was in the womb, he had the feeling that let my mother not be hurt even the slightest and have no discomfort on account of me. He had all the powers you know, so he stopped moving in the womb. But the mother got anxious. The Lord even in the womb noticed it and again started moving for her. The very moment, he decided that throughout my life I will live in such a way that my Mother and Father will not be hurt even to the slightest extent by  any action of my mind, body or speech, in fact Mahavir lived that way.

Holistic Scientist A. M. Patel always used to say that because it is on the account of my Mother (Zaverba) that I have attained such glory. He always use to love, respect, take care of his Mother, whenever his Mother needed anything or needed him to do something or whenever his Mother was sick, he used to leave all the work and sit by
side of her.  

So in a nutshell, the first duty is towards our parents, mother and father. We have to be respectful to them and whenever they need us, it should be in our heart that by my all actions of mind, speech and body, they should be happy and that whenever they need us we should be ready to help them to do what has been requested. That’s the first duty towards our parents and towards family members.

So let us decide that we will try in whatever small way we can to keep our family happy. We will take care of them. We will help them. We will be always doing small errands for them. So, when your grandparents or parents want you to bring something or do some small errand for them, you should be more than happy to do the job, with this decision. Even though at that particular moment you are playing some video games or watching TV. In your mind you may think, oh no Mum, no grandpa, I’m playing my video game or watching my favorite show. However, simultaneously your heart should say, that, I should be helpful and do this errand for them. This would be more appropriate that your heart take over the decision from your mind or your intellect which is trying to keep you away at that moment from helping and your resolution of always helping them.

Holistic Scientist said that in the home with the family members you are living with, there should be mutually very good relationships with each other. It should be cooperative, warm, loving, helping, caring and sharing such that our home itself becomes a heaven or a temple on earth.

But, if it is a house without caring, sharing, or loving relations with each other, it’s not a good home .It merely becomes a place where they breathe only. So you can make your home a heaven on earth by your attitudes and by your correct understandings.

What is the duty towards your friends and what kinds of friends should we keep and why? How all of you select your friends?
There are two types of friends. The first friendship is in our routine dealings where we have friendship e.g. friends we play with in school or in classroom or neighborhood. This friendship is on the surface and you are just friendly with everybody. Second friendship is internal friendship, e.g. friendship at the level of the heart which we can say that the person is near and dear to our heart.

So, one has to be a little selective or careful, meaning thereby, that you should select your friends whom you want to keep close to your heart such that they are also having similar goals as yours, similar purposes or similar understanding like yours.  But friends, who are going in other direction by bad habits or have some different attitudes, should be kept at some distance. They may not know that you are keeping some distance from them, but your heart knows that okay this is the friendship for the routine
dealings and I am not going to be very close by heart with them. The friends who are caring, sharing for example, your satsang group friends you can make them hearty friends but for other friends you can keep the friendship at the level of routine dealings you have e.g. at schools or playground, playing with neighbors, going to classes or in similar situation.

When I was in medical college I had many friends, but only a couple of friends were there with whom we were very close at heart. One of them is still continuing the hearty friendship and he is in Philadelphia. So, to heart we can say that he is really my good friend, otherwise all are friends and should be treated such but the good friends are the friends closer to heart and are selected by their virtues and attitudes.

Holsitic Scientist A. M. Patel always used to say, keep away from “kusang”. Kusang means one which takes you away from the good things, satsangs, good virtues and qualities. So don’t keep the company of the people whom you feel may not be good for you.

How do we prioritize our time with family, parents, and friends?
When you are at home, make sure your priorities are aligned with your parents. When you go for social occasions, you are mixing with other family members, when you are at school or at the playground, you are with your friends, so at different phases or different events you’ll meet different people and spend time accordingly.

Let’s suppose simultaneously two things come up to be done. One is that your parents want you to do something or take you somewhere and second is that your outside friends want you to with them. In this case, I believe that we should be prioritizing our time with the parents or with family members first and then the other friends.

This is about our relative living. That relative living is very very important during the growing age. For example when I was studying, if I did not keep good company of friends or if I would have been involved in the company of people who were fond of going to restaurants, movies, and wasting time on other things, I would not have been able to study my medicine very well or today I may not have been a doctor. Similarly set your goals and keep good company accordingly. I was the only one from my whole class who was going to satsang and the rest all were not going to satsang. If I would have been with them the today I would not be doing this satsang.  One should be very clear, what is the thing one wants to achieve and put priority accordingly.

One need to examine what is one’s goal, what is one’s path and remain faithful to one self, own goal, own aim, own priority and make sure one makes it happen!

Why is Mum most important and why not Mum and Dad both equally?
In one way both Mum and Dad are equally important, but even out of that, Mum is more important. We always say Mummy first when we say daddy or Baa and Dada, The reason is that it is the Mum who sacrifices more. Mum has carried us for 9 months in the womb. Mum doesn’t sleep if the child cannot sleep. Mum’s love is the most selfless love. If you are sick, Mum will not sleep, Mum will have sleepless nights. It is said, both are biological, physiological and karmic connection with us but it’s the Mum who sacrifices the most, mind wise, speech wise and body wise and it is the Mum’s heart which has the most caring selfless love. Of course Daddy is no way inferior, but equally important but it is more pertinent that Mum has been given a little more importance. Both are equally important, Mum and Dad, but Mum has a special place. 

Why are festivals being celebrated?
Our Gnani’s or rishi’s were very far sighted. Festivals have multi-faceted importance. The major importance is the festivals change our mind, it changes our attitude and if our mind has been sort of rusted within our relations to each other, during the festival days, our minds and hearts become again healthier, happier and our relations with each other also become healthier. There are many festivals being observed in India.

Apart from their importance with the seasonal and health wise things, the most particularly important aspect is to bring us back to happier and healthier within and outside especially in our relations with each other.

Diwali is considered to be festival of lights.

What does Diwali signify?
It is to find light against darkness. In one way we are having candles and lights outside during Diwali but it signifies that there should be light of knowledge, light of correct understanding and light of such a knowledge that will not only make us happy in the relative world but it will also lead us to the permanent happiness.

Diwali marks the day on which the Lord Mahavir attained the moksha (Liberation) or he went to Moksha on the day of Diwali. On the same day, Gautam Swami, the disciple of Mahavir Swami attained absolute knowledge that is known as Keval Gnan. It is also the day of the return of the Lord Rama, his wife Sita and his brother Lakshmana from exile. It also is the day when the Pandavas return after 12 years of exile and one year of agyatavas.

There are five festival days during Diwali. They are Dhanteras, Kali Chavdas, Diwali, New Year, and Bhai Beej. It is the longest and important festival observed in Indian tradition. The Indian calendar also revolves around this festival and Indian New Year in Indian tradition starts that day.

Dhanteras is the day people worship the goddess of Lakshmi (wealth) or it is said that when you worship you acquire wealth in relative living. These are the beliefs which make our heart to pray for something.

On Kali Chavdas day and Diwali day lights are put around the house and everything is bright.

We bow to our parents and then other elders. We seek their blessings and then we meet and greet all the family around followed by our friends.

Bhai Beej - The last day of festival is called Bhai Beej (Sister’s day). It celebrates the sister-brother loving relationship, in a spirit similar to Raksha Bandhan but with different rituals. The day ritually emphasizes the love and lifelong bond between siblings. It is a day when women and girls get together; perform a puja with prayers for the wellbeing

of their brothers, then return to a ritual of food-sharing, gift-giving and family reunion.

We observe that during these days, everybody is very happy, forgets everything, family gather together and enjoy the festival.

Most significance is when we get blessings during the festivals.

What is the meaning of blessing?
Blessing is the transfer of energy from the person whom we are seeking blessing. He or She heartily blesses us, and in doing so there is a transfer of energy. It’s a metaphysical separate energy transfers and we get the energy which will help us to grow up to acquire whatever best and auspicious things we are going to achieve in our either relative living or for our real eternal self. So blessings will help us to become stronger and to grow from within. Inner energy is very very important or vital when we are faced with a difficult situation. Whenever we are progressing from within to attain the heights in any field or anywhere it gives us the energy especially from within.

I remember when I was younger of your age and I always used to go to my Mother whenever I was going for exams or on auspicious days and seek the blessings from her and I believe her blessings helped me throughout my life to grow up to greater heights.

Do you also feel the same way? Do you believe that the blessings help you to grow from within and attain the better heights?  Our intent is to go on acquiring as many blessings as you can.

One important thing we want to discuss is that there are 2 types of pleasures. One is the pleasure in routine activities, e.g. playing games or going out with friends, eating, so you can or do enjoy these activities. Second pleasure is the happiness at the level of the heart which gives you the satisfaction, fulfillment and feeling of progressing from within. So keep a watch on both and you can always have the outer fun but at the same time also be careful of your heart and be loyal to your heart too. In fact you should be loyal to your heart, which also applies to me. It’s irrespective of age.

Make best of both worlds
The last small message which comes to my heart is that you have best of both worlds. You have comforts and luxuries of the western style and we have the rich cultural heritage, enriched knowledge based, inner happiness heritage from India. So I wish you the very best.