Anger: Cause and Remedies

Feb 29, 2016

When the volcano of anger erupts, its destructive force destroys relationships and causes irreparable hurt to others. The ill effects of anger linger for a long time.

Anger is one of the highest forms of violence according to Holistic Science. Anger generates a lot of heat and this heat kills thousands of microorganisms that reside in our body.

The underlying cause of anger is ego. When your ego is hurt by others or by extreme circumstances, you get angry. You get angry when things do not go as planned or someone insults you. Holistic Science defines ego as the wrong belief which leads you to believe that you are the name bearer. For example the wrong belief that “I am Manish”, “I am a husband”, “I am a father” or “I am a professor” is my ego.

How can you mitigate these situations so that you can pacify the volcano of anger before it erupts?  Here are some remedies for typical situations that arise in our life.

If things do not go as planned, understand that the outcome is in the hands of nature’s regulatory system. All you can do is give it your best.

When you incur a loss, understand that by getting angry you are doubling your loss. You already incurred one loss and if you get angry you will lose your peace and incur a second loss.

When your kids don’t listen to you, try to explain why you want the kids to act or behave a certain way. Explain once, remind once and then leave it to nature. Invariably, the children will come around.

When you are insulted, understand that this is a result of your past echo. You are reaping what you had sown. Handle the situation with equanimity.

When you are under pressure because there is a lot to accomplish, prioritize your tasks. Do not rush into attempting everything at once. Realize that circumstances are of a transitory nature. They will pass. So exercise patience.

Holistic Science gives a very effective prescription for removing the ill effects of anger. To erase the negative effects of your anger, you should pray to the soul of the person you offended and ask for forgiveness. However, you should ask for forgiveness internally and not approach the person you hurt. By doing so, you are preventing the ego of the other person from getting inflated (Look, he came and begged for my forgiveness).

Proactively, you can use your intention to pacify anger. Holistic Science recommends that we recite this prayer, preferably early in the morning, and thereby release our intention to become free of anger.

O Lord!

May you bless me with such as infinite inner strength as would restrain me from hurting, causing someone to hurt or supporting someone hurting even slightly the ego of any living being.

May you bless with me such an inner strength in the philosophy of relative pluralism (syadvad) in thinking, speech and conduct as would restrain me from hurting even slightly, the ego of any living being.

Anger is considered to be a big obstacle to our spiritual progress. Armed with correct understanding, we can neutralize and conquer anger.

-Manish Shah, Chicago