A Guide for Modern Parenting

Aug 21, 2017

Thirukkural  by Tiruvalluvar (a Tamil  poet/writer) was written more than 5,000 yrs ago. It’s one of the ancient science on Human Behavior, which has not changed in spite of modern education  & technology!

*SOME GOLDEN THOUGHTS OF THIRUKKURAL*

1. *If your child lies to you often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behavior. *

2. *If your child is not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you’ve lost them. *

3. *If your child had poor self-esteem, it is because you advice them more than you encourage them. *

4. *If your child does not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public.*

5. *If your child takes things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don’t let them chose what they want.*

6. *If your child is cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.*

7. *If your child does not respect other people’s feelings, it is because instead of speaking to your child, you order & command them.*

8. *If your child is too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehaviour & you give little attention to good behaviour.*

9. *If your child is excessively jealous, it is because you only congratulate them when they successfully complete something & not when they improve at something even if they don’t successfully complete it.*

10. *If your child intentionally disturbs you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.*

11. *If your child is openly defiant, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don’t follow through.*

12. *If your child is secretive, it is because they don’t trust that you won’t blow things out of proportion.*

13. *If your child talks back to you, it is because they watch you do it to others & think its normal behaviour.*

14. *If your child doesn’t listen to you but listens to others, it is because you are too quick to jump to conclusions.*

15. *If your child rebels it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right.*