Secrets of Holistic Living: Eternal Law of Acceptance

Mar 29, 2018

"What is nature’s language? What appears to be justice or injustice by worldly viewpoints is all justice in nature’s language. So accept that whatever has happened is just and correct. Even if you are not ready to believe, you will have to accept it after going through agonies."

This aims at accepting all individuals and situations either with equanimity or gracefully. Any pattern of internal change like meditation, introspection leads to acceptance. In short, acceptance is a technique of internal change to correct external situation like health, business conditions, family problems etc. in a limited way. It is the, opposite of reaction.

Response to a situation like sickness by way of treatment is well observed practical pattern. Here again change of life habits; diet etc. that forms the internal change is acceptance. So also in case of business loss. Change of strategy by introspection to correct the situation is acceptance. Change of business pattern due to obsolescence is a response, which is the sub-set of acceptance.

The concept of acceptance is at the center (a middle point of view) of the extreme responses of either non-acceptance or over-acceptance.

Non-acceptance is the (reactionary) effect of over-acceptance; correction need be first applied to basis of our non-acceptance by understanding its destructive power.

It is observed that when one does not accept human beings gracefully, whether one likes them or not, the result is loss of wealth and health. This is due to one’s failure in managing well his interpersonal relations.

Non-acceptance of things like clothes, furniture and way of living is not as dangerous as Non-acceptance of men & situations.

Non-acceptance of human being is usually in case of partners, government officers, family members, neighbours, servants, members of different regional or religious groups etc. As long as somebody is not accepted and hence avoided, a man or women worse than those whom we have not accepted is put in our path by nature till ultimately we learn to accept the uniqueness of human beings. So is the case with situations.

It can be learnt by experience as also meaningful observation of different people that non-acceptance usurp lot of energy by way of internal and external friction and thereby reduces the energy level of the human system, may hamper the immunity level and making him open to disease.

Whenever, we are in difficult situation, by instinct we try to change the situation whereas by acceptance we overcome our own hostility to the situation. That is, we ourselves change and the degree of our change is reflected in a change of situation appearing in our favour.

If we cannot change our non-acceptance, then we should gracefully accept the result of our non-acceptance to reduce the damage. This is called secondary acceptance.

Acceptance is a measure of our grace, culture and creativity. It is cultivated by a strong auto-suggestion to accept. It requires a patient effort over a prolonged duration. It puts life into our system. It is a very important way to come out of our misery.

When practiced under the guidance of a teacher, it transforms human system into serene divinity enabling intense activity with a calm and steady poise. It cleans the memory lanes by removing "HURT" spread all over. It is the receding of ego system represented by its manifestations in the form of arrogance, obstinacy, fear, anxiety and restlessness.

Acceptance is not helplessness although usually a situation is accepted when there is no other way. It is the calm acceptance of the people who appear to be responsible for uncomfortable situation by meditating on the real cause of our predicament.

Acceptance is in the ultimate analysis an inward search for the causes. Taken to an extreme, it is blessing all those responsible for our difficulty - an opening of life within and reducing our hostility which over sometime shall be responded by a matching positive feelings from them.

Acceptance when properly understood and practiced locates a true spiritual centre line, away from all dualities like love and hate, rigidity and looseness, health and sickness, poverty and wealth.

It is the way to come out of material and spiritual bankruptcy.

If one over-accepts one-self, ego-principle becomes strong and light goes away. If he does not accept himself and starts reducing himself, he becomes worthless man.

We always get what we deserve, wife, children, business partners, neighbours, colleagues, profit, loss. Depending upon the extent of hostility and love within us, some are favourable some are unfavourable. One can experience that by accepting unfavourable persons gracefully, their number decreases and life becomes more pleasant.

Practice of acceptance over a long period leads to inner silence. It is the essence of non-violence and compassion. It is the aim of all meditation practices.

Of all the non-acceptance, the most powerful one is of death, strong breath currents built by nature at the time of birth creates a strong misbelief in us that we are the body and death of body means our own death. Only slow practice of meditation can take us out of the fear of death. Accepting death gracefully is not to ask for death. It only generates strong life currents within us during our lifetime. There will not be old age.

Acceptance is also the basis of principle of impermanence (Anitya), which requires experiencing nature of all sensations as arising - passing away and then calls for their graceful acceptance, be them pleasant or unpleasant.

Book excerpt from "Secrets of Holistic Living" by Shri Jayantilal Shah
Published by:
Vasant U. Patel, President
Vitrag Vignan Charitable Research Foundation